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Weddings on the Mind

Putting mental health first in the wedding industry

By modefor, Aug 19 2020 09:16AM

The following blog has been written by one of our amazing Mode for... creative team, Keri Graham.


Keri is a wedding planner, musician and book lover and has been right at the heart of the wedding industry during the COVID-19 pandemic.


But, even amongst the chaos, she has found some positives which she shares with you here...


2020 has been one heck of a year for the wedding industry, with only around 3 months of usual wedding trading allowed to take place.


But the good news is, you can still get married!


Now it seems we are (hopefully!) over the worst, current restrictions are that you can have up to 30 people attend a wedding ceremony. These numbers include the person conducting your ceremony and a photographer, so you can invite up to 25 of your nearest and dearest to join you.


I’m a Wedding Coordinator and personally, I love small, intimate weddings! There is so much more available time for you during the day to spend with your loved ones - although at a safe social distance at the moment!


So, why not make the most of a bad situation? At the end of the day, you’re still getting married and saying those important vows to each other, and that is the most important part of any wedding! Yes, you may not have everyone you wanted present, but you could always have a bigger ‘do’ to celebrate at a later date and invite all those that you weren’t able to.

Here’s a few little tips you can do to help make the most of your wedding at this time;


Personalised face masks

Instead of giving your guests traditional wedding favours, perhaps supply your guests with personalised face masks. They’re a great keepsake from your special day and they’ll be sure to use them! In England, face masks during wedding ceremonies have to be worn by guests, so you could have these waiting on their designated seats as they enter the ceremony room.


Video call loved ones

If there really is someone special that couldn’t make the day, arrange to video call the ceremony to them. We have some amazing technology with FaceTime & Zoom/Skype now, so this is an easy and free thing to arrange.


Get married later..….which means you get a lie in!

As there won’t be a reception or big group photographs to take, think about moving your ceremony to later in the day. This will give you time for those extra zzz’s and also, gives you plenty of time to get ready. This can really help calm and relax you on your wedding day, as you won’t have the hustle and bustle of a busy room full of people getting ready with you.


Enjoy a larger celebration at a later date

With the extra money you will be saving from having an intimate wedding, why not put this towards a bigger party to celebrate when you are able to. You can invite all the people you weren’t able to have attend the ceremony and can bring along your photo album for everyone to have a nosey at! This really does extend your wedding celebrations and gives you something to look forward to. But if that’s not your thing…..why not put the extra money towards an amazing honeymoon to start off your married lives!


Of course, for some couples, a smaller day is just not for them and that’s okay. Just please remember to postpone your day, not cancel, to help all the lovely suppliers in the wedding industry.


Keep up to date over on our Instragam @weddingsonthemind for more hints and tips to make sure you enjoy your wedding day stress free, whatever your guest numbers!


Love

Keri x



By modefor, Oct 24 2019 08:18AM

A quick look at some areas of your wedding you need to be honest with from Pinterest to Budgets and Family...


One of the most valuable things we can be is honest but, being honest with ourselves is tricky and this is especially true when it comes to our own wedding.


Therefore, it’s time to get honest, realistic and believe in your own integrity when it comes to planning your wedding.


Let me break it down a little into three key areas, in no particular order (and btw… there are plenty more things you can get honest about, not just these! Don’t even start me on children at weddings and traditions such as cake cutting and first dances!).


Pinterest

Firstly, whilst I love Pinterest for inspiration and general nosiness, get off it when making your final planning decisions for your wedding. Get your own wedding and stop stealing someone else’s! Be honest with yourself and ask yourself what YOU and YOUR partner really want. Don’t just copy someone else’s wedding or ideas that some professionals put together for a styled shoot. These images are there to be inspiration for you and not for you to carbon copy. So, close your eyes, imagine your big day… what does it look like? Honestly? Now create this vision.


Budget

Yep, the big ‘taboo’ that you need to be really honest about because quite simply, starting married life in debt purely from a party you were paying for where everyone else ate and drank sucks! So, be realistic and honest. Pick your budget truthfully and stick to it. You can have the most amazing wedding on a small budget. These big fancy expensive weddings do not make you any happier in married life than an elopement and quiet dinner with just the two of you.


Small budget does not mean missing out. It’s an opportunity to get wise and savvy financially and produce a wedding which is the truest reflection of you both as a couple with the people you love most around you.


Which brings me on to my third point…


Family

Get really brutally honest here. If you don’t like them, don’t see them and have nothing to do with them, why would you invite them? Especially if it was at the detriment of a friend who has shared so much with you or quite simply just makes you laugh and you want them at your party? Being related does not give people the right to expect an invitation to your wedding.


Now, I’m not suggesting a lack of sensitivity and being mean in not inviting family members but remember this is your wedding and you get to choose who you share it with. You could always do a separate informal family party to invite them all if you have heaps of family but actually want some friends at your wedding.


You must be honest to yourselves and do exactly what you feel comfortable with. Don’t think you are at the mercy of any historic traditions and protocols; you’re not. This is about the two of you and by the way, just because someone contributes to funding your wedding does not give them the right to dictate your guest list.


Be calm, compromise but be honest about your feelings and be empowered to take control of your wedding.


Want a chat about how you can keep calm, keep anxiety at bay and be honest with yourself to have a wedding that truly reflects you? Then drop me an email at [email protected]


Much Love

Tabby xxx



Pic by Adam Wilkinson Photography
Pic by Adam Wilkinson Photography

By modefor, May 14 2019 08:52AM

Dear Brides


Are you finding planning your wedding slightly overwhelming?


Do you feel anxious about fitting in ‘that’ dress?


Do you feel stressed out by family or friends?


Are you fighting battles over who you should invite, be that adults or children?


Are you worried about sticking to budget?


Do you just want to enjoy the whole process but don’t feel that you can?


Are you nervous about being the centre of attention?


Are you concerned that members of your family won’t get along on the day?


Are you starting to dread your own wedding day?


Has the answer to any of the above questions been ‘yes’?


If so, I want to help you and take all that stress away and become calm and stress free.


This week is #MentalHealthAwarenessWeek and your mental wellbeing should be a priority during the planning of your wedding and that’s what I’m here to help you with.


With over two decades planning and producing events and weddings I have helped thousands of clients and what my brides will tell you is how I kept them calm and made the whole planning process and wedding day stress free.


This is my aim and my focus is on your wellbeing as you prepare for one of the most exciting experiences of your life. I’m here to support you as you plan your big day.


Working with you for just one session to get your mindset in a good place or throughout your engagement I will help you to develop the mental resilience to love every moment of your wedding journey. ‘The Calm Bride’ is for you and what you will become.


Working exclusively with you to plan and produce your wedding or working alongside your existing planner and suppliers, my priority is you and my expertise and experience are at your disposal.


Want to know more? Then contact me via our website for more information on becoming #thecalmbride


Much Love

Tabby xxx

#thecalmbride #theweddingfixer #createmyhappy




By modefor, Sep 3 2018 10:20AM



After three long years of planning and preparing, Gemma and Aaron got Married last weekend at Hargate Hall and we had so much fun celebrating with them.


The Friday set up was a family affair, with everyone getting stuck in and helping to prepare the marquee. As we all worked together to string the beautiful ivy from the ceilings and draping it throughout the marquee, we could hear the rain. Hammering down, it had gone really dark outside and every time we carried things from the car we got soaked!


Gemma looked at me and asked if the weather would be like this tomorrow? Now at Mode For… we are complete perfectionists and control freaks (it’s why we are so good at planning weddings) but the one thing we can’t control is the weather! Fast forward to Saturday afternoon and as the happy couple burst through the beautiful doors at Hargate Hall we wished them congratulations in the glorious sunshine. Gemma turned to me and said, “I can’t believe this weather, it’s beautiful!”.


Rain or shine your wedding will be beautiful too. But the best part of any wedding for us is seeing the bride and groom so completely happy and relaxed. Gemma and Aaron were so happy, stress free and calm - they were able to enjoy every moment of their wedding day.


As well as coordinating the wedding day, Mode For… catered for the wedding breakfast. Preparing our signature delicious antipasti sharing platters: piled high with Italian deli meats and cheeses, mountains of fresh rustic bread and marinated vegetables for starters. Followed by Italian style chicken wrapped in bacon stuffed full with pesto and smothered in our (secret recipe) house tomato and basil sauce, with stacks of dauphinoise potatoes and steamed vegetables. It was a feast! For dessert all the guests tucked in to the incredible wedding cake and scrumptious brownies, Eton mess and cookies, provided by their incredible family.


There were so many amazing homemade touches and thoughtful additions to Gemma and Aaron’s wedding, the memory table and beautiful guest book showed how much planning and attention to detail the couple had.


Gemma & Aaron, we wish you all the happiness in the world, thank you for letting us be such a big part of your special day.


Are you worried about feeling stressed on your wedding day? Are you feeling the pressure? Do you need help or tips on how to stay calm? We pride ourselves on creating the most relaxed and calm weddings. Tabby, our in house #Weddingfixer has an amazing free Facebook group that can help even the most anxious of brides www.facebook.com/groups/theweddingfixer. Whatever you do please don’t worry. Sunshine or showers - your wedding will be great!

Much Love,

Laura xxx



By modefor, Jun 11 2018 10:20AM

We kicked-off June with a fabulous wedding at The Arches as Dean Clough. The wedding of Jamie and James.


This fabulous couple had everything organised and it was all about foliage, ferns, fabulous food and fun.


They actually held their wedding ceremony at Gibson Mill at Hardcastle Crags which is a beautiful National Trust hidden gem in Hebden Bridge before coming over to The Arches in a vintage bus. Then it was time for a few photos, a three-course sit down meal from the in-house caterers Eat Me - Drink Me and dancing, all night long!


There were some great extra touches too with succulent favours, giant games supplied by Add Vintage, our favourite photobooth Herman from Volkswagen Wedding Company. Florals were by The Willow Garden.


The first sneak of official photos from Lianne Gray Photography are absolutely fabulous too.


Check out our behind the scenes images HERE.


Congratulations Jamie & James.

Much Love

Tabby xxx